5 Ways a “Hot Mess” Mom Keeps It Going


Being a mother is a true blessing and I wouldn’t trade it for anything. Sometimes I fell like Atlas holding up the world.

At first I thought those feelings were bad. I have these miracles so I shouldn’t complain.

Not only are those feelings ok but I am not alone.

So in my eight years since the birth of my first son, I have adapted to my new role. Here are some hard-earned lessons.

#1 – Find a system to organize your activities/events

There are tons of ways to organize your life…paper calendars, digital, etc. I don’t think either is better than the other.

Pick one give it a try. I started with paper and quickly learned that I ahve my phone on my person more than a paper calendar.

Plus all of my work-related emails were linked to calendars with events associated with them. So digital was my way to go.

It will take time. You may not transition overnight. But any forward progress towards keeping it together is better than nothing. RIGHT?!


**Simpliday App – I love thet fact the I can coordinate calendars from my work emails and personal emails into one. It also lets you build to-do list.

I love me some lists!

#2 – Enlist your kids (if possible)

I am not sure when I starting thinkin my kids couldn’t help around the house. NP is about to be 8 years old and CJ is nearly 4 years old.

I grew up in a house that had chores. Did I really think my kids were too good for chores.WTH?!?! 

Now…in this house…everyone does their share to some degree.

Needless to say after running like a headless chicken for the last year or so as my family became more active in events, my perspective changed dramatically.

I totally get how some of you may have kids too young for this but just hear me out.

Starting slow, I began making my kids put their clothes in their own hampers. Easy enough right…Thats what I was thinking.

The more we worked our way through, I realized I was doing almost everything for them. This ship required ALL HANDS ON DECK.


I slowly continuing to make them more responsible for things like toys, dishes, bedrooms. With certainty I can say that has helped a ton.

They still need set times and instructions for their chores. I need to supervise still but my sanity is returning. I’m telling you…revolutionary LOL!

#3 – Spread out your household task throughout the week

Having cub scouts on Mondays, religion on Wednesdays, libary visit on Thursday, as well as usually a Saturday and/or Sunday activity, our week just flies by as I’m sure you can understand.

I had to start taking task around my house and tackling them in smaller chunks. The idea come when I stumbled upon this graphic on an web troll.

There ain’t no Mary Poppins, finger snapping at this house.


So I took this and made it fit us focusing on the weekly task. I also spread out the laundry through out the week if I can’t get it done over the weekend.

#4 – Plan, shop and prep for upcoming week’s meals on the weekend

Let me be the first to admit and since I had to make a drastic change in my eating lifestyle my meal planning has taken on a mind of its own.

Kinda scary to a person on the outside.

However even though I am borderline OCD about it now, it does save me from those mid-week…i don’t know what to cook trips…i see my friends doing.

First I sit down (usually a Thursday evening while my kids play at the library) and take inventory of what we have. Pantry, refrig, freezer, that whole shabang.

Come girl use what you have. Grocery are expensive enough.

With whats in stock at home, I start with gathering recipes for dinner since those leftovers will probably become lunch for the day that follows. (Book in picture is the 21 Day Sugar Detox Daily Guide)

Related: You Can’t Pour From An Empty Glass


Then I factor in breakfasts and school lunches for the kids. At first it took me a bit to plan it out.

Now its kinda quick. Here is what this week’s plan looked like. With one shop we are set for the week.


We leave outside of our city. So its nice to know that after our shop, all of the meals stuff is bought and ready to cook.

#5 – Be flexible

Life happens, right?! We are all juggling more than our share of stuff.

I am learning very quickly to go with the flow.

Even thought I plan out our meals. If something pops up and we aren’t home, or I forget to take our a part of a meal, i just keep rolling to a different option.

Also with my house chores/tasks…I give myself grace. I try to keep the mentality that if I can say I tried my best each day, if something doesn’t get checked off. No worries it can roll to the next day.

As much as I wish I was Wonder Wonder… I am so not. Ok maybe in my dreams.

**#6 – Essential Oils

I rely on my oils to helps with my emotions big time. It is a tremendous strain to keep juggling everything for everyone.

I am so grateful to have found them and have been using them for almost two years. When my cray is out of control or when my entire my is on overload, a moment or two of mediation with my oils is enough to refocus me.

They even help my little humans handle all the things their little brain struggles with. Emotions are hard for kids to understand.

Here are some of my go-tos when I feel like my anchor is untethered and I am drifting in the wind.


I love this letter from a Fellow Momma…its a must read.


YOU ARE ENOUGH fellow mommas! – xo Carmen

4 Comments Add yours

  1. Michelle says:

    Thank you for sharing my love letter to tired mamas! I love this post – so many great ideas in here. And I love meeting a fellow oil lover!

    Liked by 1 person

    1. cdfolse says:

      Girl when I read that letter it was like we were sitting on my sofa with a cup of coffee as lifelong friends. It touched me. Yeah to meeting another oil lover. 🙂 Thank you for your kind words. I hope you have a wonderful day.


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