Being an adult is no joke. Being a mother is like running a sprint every day while trying to keep everyone alive, feed, loved, to their activities and safe.
I have noticed that there are days when my emotions are next level kinda stuff: dragon lady 100%. I wonder constantly if I am doing anything right at all.
Juggling a thousands things a day can start to make you feel like Atlas holding up the Earth. As my children get older though, I am beginning to have these revelations about being a mom.
The first one is that I am not alone in having these feelings. These feelings are also ok. I hate that as mothers we feel like our emotions and feelings are not allowed…like we aren’t supposed to feel like this.
“Being a mother isn’t always cupcakes and rainbows. We should all smiles all the time.” said NO ONE!
Secondly, we need to worry about ourselves as much as we worry about our families.
Here are my 3 ways of dealing with those intense emotions that comes with being a partner, runner of a household, mother, full-time teacher and all the other hats I wear.
#1 – Self Care
I didn’t realize how therapuetic it could be to exercise every day. Its usually about 30 minutes. I go in the office and close the door. My kids know that they need to play and to only come get me for emergencies.
They should be able to survive without me for 30 minutes.
I can work out my frustrations from my work day or just release some negative energies that I may have collected from the little things that can add up. I want my kids to enjoy the mom they is home with them in the evenings.
Sometimes they want to spend time with me though, so we all go outside. They ride their bikes and I walk our driveway.
Reading is another hobby I do just for me. I have always had a love of reading. The adventures you can take in a book are priceless. I usually wake up about 30 minutes or so before my children to enjoy a quiet cup of coffee and a few chapters of a book.
I find that it helps me start the day off on a positive foot. Plus its so peaceful!
I don’t know what happens when you become a mother?!?! Is there a flashing neon light or a homing beacon…maybe its a news alert piping through an invisible sound system in your house that notifies all children that you are going take a bath.
Come on, kids….really?
This is when I coral the help of my husband. A quiet kidless bath is priceless. Add some bubbles or bath salts and you raised its value greatly.
I think my husband needs to hook me up with on of these bath trays. Aren’t they awesome?!
Outing just for me are also something I have learned to coordinate and enjoy. Going get a pedicure, going sit at the coffee shop, catching a movie with my best friend are all ways that a take that small break from everything at home.
Its important to find those small things or hobbies you enjoy and fit them into your schedule. I learned the hard way that becoming a mother doesn’t mean I lose my identity.
Why can’t I be me and a mother?!
Related: You Can’t Pour From an Empty Cup
# 2 – Essential Oils
I have been using essential oils for a while. However its only been recently that I have begun to use them to help me handle my emotions.
I mean they are great for tons of other stuff. Why didn’t I think of emotions sooner.
VALOR helps balance the energies within the body and helps to give courage, confidence, and self-esteem. Valor balances and equalizes the body’s energies thereby increasing oxygen intake to the pineal gland—the seat of our higher intelligence and intuitive faculties.
Do you ever feel like you can’t breath, the world is sitting on your shoulders, and you are freaking the F out? Or like you just cannot get out of a sad, sad, sad, fog that won’t lift. YEAH. You know what I mean. Valor. is. a. gamechanger. New mamas, sometimes get that after baby blues… VALOR. I have a few friends who have some amazing testimonies about that really really scary and hard time after giving birth
→Stress | In my daily life, I put roller tops on all of my bottles. I use Valor every morning on my wrists and the back of my neck. I keep a bottle in my purse and at work! I CANNOT BE WITHOUT MY VALOR. It keeps my nerves settled and brings me back from that crazy place my mind can wander to.
→Sleep | I also loved this diffused at night with Lavender and/or Northern Lights Black Spruce.
→Relief | I love this down my spine after a chiropractic visit and in my rollers with Panaway, Peppermint, and Copaiba to soothe occasional muscle discomfort.
One of the quotes in the Troll movie just stuck a chord with me and resonates so much meaning:”Tune out the negative vibrations, they’re toxic. Some people just don’t want to be happy”🦄🌈
How true. Negative people and thoughts take a toll on you. White Angelica supports the bodies natural process of creating a frequency field to ward off the bombardment of negative energy. Big stuff!
PEACE AND CALMING helps foster exactly what its name implies. Great for kid tantrums, adult emotion overload as well as sleep, its hard to beat.
TRANQUIL…Sleep. Let’s talk about sweet, sweet sleep. Tranquil is one of my favorite oils to use before bedtime, I gave it to nearly every family member for Christmas this year. Lavender, Cedarwood, and Roman Chamomile blended with coconut oil in a roll-on. HEAVEN. I roll this on my collarbone, wrists, and temples before bed and I sleep so amazing.
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#3 – Mindset
Oh how quickly a momma’s mind can turn negative. Here are some of the things I remind myself of each day as I am getting ready.
- No one said that moms have to do it all
- Give yourself grace because there are only so many hours in the day
- letting go what you can’t control
- remembering that you are important too
- living with intention not mindlessly
- Two books that have helped me out plenty in life and in my business ventures are:
I met Jen Sincero at a book signing. She was so motivational. She kept saying that the power is within you to see the world differently and tackle your goals.
*BONUS – Enlist your family’s help!
It has occurred to me that I am not the only one living in my house.
Why am I doing all the work?!?!
I calming and politely sat my hubby down and asked him that question. He looks shocked. I work a full time job just like him.
He said that they all could help out. So when the hubby is off on Friday’s, he will usually start washing the laundry. We have also starting setting a 15 minute timer each evening for the boys to clean up any toys they have taken out.
It seems little I know but it helps a lot to know that they are helping and I am not alone in the work of the house.
We, mommas, have to stick together and help one another.– xo Carmen